April 25, 2008

Do you Trust?

Trust is a small word, but it's importance in our lives is not small. In fact, in it's various forms, it is the essence of our lives.

First of all, we need to trust ourselves. We need to be sure that when we are put to the test, we will do good. Most of us, I feel, are not very sure of ourselves. We just let things happen, instead of taking charge. Of course, however hard we try, there will be some things that will not be in our control, but we should at least endeavor to do the best that we can.

Trust is the keystone that holds all relationships together. If there is no trust, there is no relationship. What usually happens is that we find it difficult to trust others, but we want others to trust us implicitly. Why should they?

In today's age and time, promises have come to mean nothing. There was a time when a man would give his life - gladly - before he would let his word be broken. Who would not trust such a man? But, today, most people make a hundred and one promises each day, and, out of those, ninety-nine are broken on the very same day. Who would trust a man who does that?

It might be easy to argue that times have changed, and it is not possible to be true and honourable these days. After all one has to lie to save one's job, to make friends, to keep parents happy and so on. Everyone lies in today's time, so why can't we?

Blaming the present times for any, or all, of our faults is the easiest way to get out of a tough situation. I strongly believe that regardless of the times, man's nature has stayed the same over the centuries. Our basic needs and desires - that govern our actions - are still the same. So, why blame the times for our faults, for our inability to take the right decision...for our willingness to lie rather than to bear the consequences of our actions.

So, if you want to be trusted, you have to make sure that you live your life in a way that makes it easy for people to believe you. More than anything else, be a man, or woman, of your words. Don't promise, but if you do, do everything in your power to keep that promise.

The best part of being a trustworthy person is that we will find it easier to trust others, and others will feel more responsible towards us.

So, do you trust others?


SandyCarlson said...

Strangely, Neo, I find the less I say the more I trust!

Trust and honor go hand and hand, and too often they are traded lightly.

Whatever said...

Being the cynical person that I am, I find it strange to say that people trust each other more these days then ever before.

Consider: you buy some food at a market. You get something that has immediate and very real value. The other person probably got a piece of paper. Why did this transaction take place? Because you trust one another.

That is a relatively trivial example, but consider drivers on a two-way street. Don't know how many people one might pass but you literally owe every last one of them your life; and they owe you their lives.

And why do we do things like this? Trust.

aeirin said...

For me trust is important especially in a relationship. trust is like a mirror... once its broken it can never be looked at the same way again. Once it is shattered, it becomes useless.

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